The Wrath Of A Father

  Hey guys...Its me again and I am back with another interesting topic titled the wrath of a Father... Sometime ago, last year to be precise, I wrote on the Love of a Mother...incase you didn't see that post you can Read Here. Now back to the topic at hand. I once heard a statement that there can't be two mothers or two fathers in one home; which simply means that a father should not do the work meant for the mother and the mother shouldn't act like the father which boils down to mean that the parents are placed in the home for specific purposes in regards to the upbringing of their children. Children can be so terrific at times, sometimes they need someone to show them that they are loved and wanted, this is where the mothers come into play. On the other hand, when the children want to act rebellious, this is where the fathers come into play. Fathers have that ability to correct their children and apply wrath where necessary without melting at the sight of their children's tears. Sometimes we children think that fathers are just mean especially when they just gave us the beating of a lifetime. I used to have the mindset, while growing up, that my dad is just mean and wicked and that he doesn't love me. Sometimes, especially when I received the medicine of my dad's belt on my back, I will crawl under the dining table, crying and asking God why He gave me my dad as a Father. It was soo bad that anytime I receive that beating, I always wanted to run away from home as a child. But all that mindset changed when my dad sat me down and talked sense into my skull instead of the usual beating. Fathers are amazing not just because of the fact that they are the head of the family but because they have the ability to carry all the responsibilities of the family. Mothers are built by God in a very unique way with the ability to give and spread love to their children but they hardly have the ability to show real anger and even if they do, it doesn't last for more than an hour (except Benin mothers oo...choi). When my mum gets angry, its always funny. The facial expressions she always display will just make you laugh out loud but out of respect and regard for her angry state, I will try to suppress my laughter and if my sister mistakenly walks in and sees my mum's face, her laughter becomes uncontrollable making everybody including my mum to burst into laughter but this kind of anger-turn-into-laughter cannot happen with my dad. Once he is angry, you dare not look at his face talk less of trying to suppress your laughter. Which laughter? The atmosphere is always tensed when my dad is angry and everybody just keep out of the way.

I am sure most of us have the kind of dad that I have and some dads don't even want to know if their children love them or not which is why most children always pick their mum as the person they love most over their dad. Fathers also have some atom of love in them but their own is not visible by default like that of the Mothers. For example, if you ask both parents for money to maybe get some new clothes or make your hair, the response you will get from both parents will be different. The kind of eye my father will give me will make me regret asking for money but my mum will always have little to give me.

One funny scenario I had one Christmas period was when I asked my dad for money to make my hair for Christmas. He was in a very good mood (thanks to perfect timing) and I have already planned all the major moves I will use so I walked up to my dad and told him that I wanted to do my hair. He looked at me in a funny way, smiled, stood up and went into his room. I stood outside his door for close to 30 minutes and he didn't come out. When I was getting tired, I knocked, no response, I knocked again, still no response, I knocked harder and when he didn't answer I opened the door only to see my dad fast asleep with the a/c on full blast. I woke him up o and reminded him that I wanted to do my hair, he directed me to his table and told me to collect 500 naira and bring back change. I told him that 500 naira cannot do anything then he brought up my secondary school days when I used to plait my hair for 150 naira. I just stood with my mouth open and my sister walked in, saw my facial expression and bursted into laughter before asking what happened. After I told her she started laughing again and my dad joined her to laugh. It took like an hour with the help of my mother before he could give me the amount I requested for. My point exactly is that no matter how bad the wrath of fathers are, they always have that soft spot for their children. The presence of a father in the life of a child should be over emphasized because no matter how hard mothers try, they can't level up to the father in terms of everything regarding child upbringing to family responsibilities. I have experienced both the wrath and love of my father and I am happy that I have my dad as my dad... he isn't so bad after all. 

Appreciate your dad today, trust me, they have a soft spot.. all you have to do is to break through the strong face and hot temper then you will realize that there is indeed a soft spot in fathers. But in case your own dad don't have soft spot......well............sorry.