KEEP IT DON'T KILL IT.......ABORTION IS NOT THE WAY OUT!!!!

Its less than 4 hours to Valentine's day and i just

felt someone somewhere need to read this. A lot of things will happen tommorrow despite the fact that its Sunday. But before you exchange your body over a gift that isnt even up to the bride price list your family members and village chiefs will dish out ontop your head, i think you should take sometime out to read this story. Before you read let me tell you this one heart breaking truth.."Abortion doesnt make you unpregnant, it only makes you the mother of a dead child" Be Wise, Play Safe, Zip Up.

Easy Way Out? I Think Not

I am 23 years old and I first learned that I was pregnant in January of this year. My boyfriend and I had been talking about getting married and he planned to propose after my graduation from college in May.

  I thought every thing was fine because I had had what I though was my period but I later learned that there can be bleeding during pregnancy. In December, I completely missed it. I attributed it to stress from finals, but we decided to get a pregnancy test just to be sure. My boyfriend when with me to get it and stayed with me to take it. Almost immediately there it was… the plus sign. I started crying because I knew this was not supposed to happen to me, not before marriage. After a while of talking and figuring out what to do, we decided have the baby and get married early. I was truly ecstatic and overcome with love for both the new baby and my boyfriend. Just behind the happiness was doubt. I worried for the health of my new baby because I read that constant stress on a fetus can be really damaging. Also my boyfriend was 30 and had a very poor job and I was a student. My life was filled with stress about telling my parents, disappointing those around me, trying to get into grad school, and research. Even though I was happy because I always wanted children, I was sad because I kept thinking that abortion would be the best choice for us because we did not have the means to start a family just yet.   The day after we found out, we drove to my parents’ house and told them the news. My boyfriend had not been eating or sleeping well and passed out after he told my father, which added more stress to my situation. I was left to hash out our plan on my own until he began to feel better. I told my mom and dad our original plan hoping for some advice but they were in shock. Their oldest daughter could never make a mistake of this caliber. It seemed like the silence would go on forever, but finally they said out lout all of the fears and thoughts that I was thinking. That day my boyfriend called Planned Parenthood and they could not get me in until the following week.   I kept telling myself that this was the best choice for me, but I second guess myself a lot. My mom and boyfriend took me to my appointment. When I got there I was so sad but I felt like I was all out of tears. I had been crying for two weeks and almost the whole trip to the clinic. It felt like I was outside of my body watching. Only one person was allowed to go in with me and I chose my mother to sit with me first. She was not at all excited to have my boyfriend accompany me. I think she thought he would talk me out of it. Later my mom and boyfriend switched and he was supportive. He also needed to be supported and I understood this all too well but I just didn’t want to be touched or coddled and I think that hurt him a lot. Later he told me he desperately wanted to just pick me up and carry me out of there and run away. Sometimes I wish he had, but who knows what would have happened.   After waiting for what seemed like days, I went in for the procedure. The nurse held my hand and told me that I was very brave and lucky to have a mother who was so understanding, even then I still could not cry. She said I was the most stoic patient they had seen all day. I told her I felt like if I started crying I would never stop. When they left me in the room to dress and have a moment I started crying and managed to pull myself back together when she got back. The protesters outside of the clinic made me even more sad and angry. I had just given up my baby, a part of me and they were telling me that I was a killer and I was going to hell.   I cried a lot on the way home and I told my mom that abortion was not the easy way out. She informed me that she was very angry with me and that it was the easy way out. I try very often to hide my depressed moods from both my parents. I also have to work really hard not to cry around my sister, she thinks I went to a meeting that day and does not know.   My boyfriend and I are now separated and trying to work things out. I know that it will be hard; I just didn’t feel that he was stable enough to marry. He is working on becoming stable and I am working on dealing with the pain that comes from my choice. I keep hoping that stability and some type of closure will come, but even if it does I still have the looming disapproval and disappointment that will surely come from my parents if we decide to get back together.   I know this was long but I feel a bit better getting it out there and knowing there are other women who have experiences similar to mine.   For those of you who may be considering abortion as an option I will not lie it is painful physically and emotionally, but if it is the right choice for you be strong and don’t let other people tell you you are wrong.

http://www.experienceproject.com/stories/Had-An-Abortion/243173

Ladies, please dont become "public basin for village spit" all in the name of love. You are worth more than a cake, or flowers or chocolates or vacation. If he isnt ready to make you his Wife don't allow him to make u a Mother.