DEALING WITH THE "EX" FACTOR---THE CHRISTIAN WAY

Hey Guys, so officially this is my first post of the year so let me wish you HAPPY NEW YEAR. 

You will agree with me that at some point in your life you experienced major heart break from the person you thought was "the one". How did you handle it? Let me be more practical. For someone like me, a Leo, dealing with heartbreak is one of the most difficult task ever. For a Leo, falling is love is very easy and once we fall, we fall hard. When we love someone the person takes over our entire system, being loyal is not hard for a Leo because we are already "addicted" to the person we love and we are willing to sacrifice anything or everything for such person. Now imagine what happens when a Leo hears these three terrible words "It is over". Words can't explain how a Leo would react. There will be a quick shift from sane to "craze". A Leo can literally run mad when his or her lover decides to part ways. I remember when I had my first relationship in school. I loved the guy so much that I didn't bother to find out if he actually felt the same way for me. I was practically dating myself because he had no feelings for me and didn't say anything until about a year or so when he told me he couldn't continue. I was mad, sad and still pretended to be happy.. I didn't want to break down right there in front of him. But when I entered my room, my God! I cried! I wept! I was literally broken. I felt like my whole world had collapsed. I felt myself loosing the joy I had some minutes before it happened. It was pure torture for me. I was no longer relating the way I used to, I no longer smiled the way I used to, I started listening to sorrowful songs that would literally make me cry and above all I completely hated my ex. I hated him with passion. Despite the fact that we were in the same institution, I would completely ignore him if I run into him along the way. It was a gloomy experience for me. 

How I handled it....The Christian way

First of all, I never expected that I and my ex would actually be business partners now...yes! As a matter of fact I would have insulted anybody that would have told me I would forgive my ex and we will become friends. Somebody will say...maybe she still have some feelings for him... To be very honest, truthful and sincere, I don't have any feelings for him neither am I planning to have in future but one thing I have realized over the years is that life is too short. You never know when next you will see someone again which is why the Bible admonished us to forgive. Forgiveness simply means total cleansing of every wrong or evil deeds. Someone will say,"Ah it's hard ooo, I can't forgive my ex, he really hurt me" but ask yourself this question..where would I be if Christ didn't forgive me? This question made me realize how deep I allowed hatred blind my eyes and kept me in bondage. The moment I realized that when you don't forgive, you are actually keeping yourself in bondage and unforgiveness can block your open heaven, I decided that I would forgive,I would let go of the pain, the disappointment, the trauma. I decided to rise above all that. From one call and now to calls, chat and hang out, I and my ex are now friends/business partners. Yes it will be very difficult to forgive. It will feel like an Herculean task but if you decide to go through with it, you will feel light as if a big burden was lifted off your shoulders. You may not chat or hang out like me but a simple call to check up on the person can go a long way to make the person feel at ease. Be friendly, never talk about the past if its going to hurt the party involved. Smile often. When you can smile at your reflection in the mirror, you will be able to smile at that one person you swore never to talk to. Forgiveness starts with a sincere smile that never fades.